The Heaviness Nobody Warned Us About

No one tells you how much divorce actually WEIGHS. So often we talk about what we are shedding. Some of us even joke about “losing 200 pounds in our divorce.”

But oh, the weight of the things that you pick up and carry…

• Devastation
• Loneliness
• Guilt
• Fear
• Bitterness
• Insert your own here.

These can all be so heavy that they feel like they will just crush you and swallow you up.  Not to mention that you are now carrying the weight of keeping up your entire household by yourself in this “new normal.”

Normal. There’s a word. There is nothing normal about this. Webster says that “normal” means expected, usual, or healthy. I don’t know about you, but for me, going through a divorce did not feel like any of that.

Instead, I felt like I was dragging this massive weight behind me, barely able to put one foot in front of the other. The weight of loneliness, the fear of being alone forever, and oh my goodness the guilt. The shouting in my head of ...

Derailment 💩 Happens: The Art of the Re-Start

 So… about that silence.

If you’ve been here before, you may have wondered if I would ever post again. And it you are new here, well, hello! You’ve caught me on the comeback trail from one of those “life-happens-all-at-once” seasons. Perhaps you can relate?

Since my last post on Vision Casting, I’ve had emergency surgery (Happy New Year!) that had me down for the count way longer than I would’ve expected, had some travel that came along with a gnarly case of bronchitis, and oh – our entire kitchen was packed up and ripped out (literally down to the studs) and turned into a dusty war zone of workmen, torn up concrete, random hanging electrical wires and comprehensive chaos. Not how I had visualized these past few months going down.

Needless to say, the blog got benched.

And goodness, gracious, when life completely stops you, isn’t it so much harder to get anything accomplished than when you had some momentum? Being derailed sucks.

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